How has your life changed for the past 10 years? Can you share your #10year challenge? Is your life better, worse, or still hopeful?

However, these 10 years also had its good moments. I managed to clear MBBS and add Dr. in front of my name. I started earning money as soon as I cleared my graduation, which is a really nice thing. I discovered my passion (Psychiatry), gave exams and went abroad to United Kingdom. I am currently working as a doctor in Psychiatry in UK, earning a really good amount (>50k pounds/50 lakh rupees per annum), live independently in my own rented flat, have 3 research papers in my name. From a career and financial point of view, I am damn proud of myself and I have done really well (touchwood).

First the bad stuff. I lost my dad in 2020. I underwent an open heart surgery for a congenital heart issue in 2021 (BAV/aneurysm). I have to be on some particular medications for my entire life (which is honestly not a big issue). Of course, I had some typical college issues like heartbreaks. All in all, these 10 years did indeed kick my ass like anything lol. Like a proper 13′ leather boot kick to the butt!

These 10 years were fucking brutal. They hit me like a sharp knife and a blunt hammer. But like they say-

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

Man is both the sculptor as well as the sculpture!

However, do you know what is the best part about these 10 years? I have grown TREMENDOUSLY as a man and as a human. I became mature, understood people, developed few but really deep friendships and learnt so many amazing hobbies (Playing guitar, Cooking, Collecting fragrances etc. to name a few). I understood what was love, had some beautiful experiences with some people which made me grew even more. My dad’s loss and my surgery made me realize the fragility of life. I also realized that a lot of things that we worry about aren’t really worth making a fuss about. I became calm, collected, practical and pragmatic. I became a better man. A man who strives to become someone his loved ones can trust and depend upon. A man whose mere presence makes his loved ones remain ‘befikar’ (chill/relaxed without worries).

Oh boy, did my life change DRASTICALLY in 10 years.

Why are Republicans so brainwashed and oblivious to the fact that a lot of the price increases going on right now is due to corporate greed, not inflation?

We are about to enter 2025 in few months.

(Look at this kid. Looks so proud after wearing a white coat. He wants to be cool and at that stage, wanted to be a surgeon like his dad.)

10 years back I was in high school. The only goal of my life was to ace my NEET UG/AIIMS UG exam. I was, frankly speaking, a big idiot that time. Bhola Baccha, for whom drinking from same straw of a girl was a big thing. For whom, playing games was entire life. For whom, cracking an entrance exam was the entire point of proving his worth. For whom, getting a good feedback from teachers triumphed everything. That Himank Gupta was a kid. Literally, I was just turning 18. In 2015, I managed to clear the entrance exam and got admitted into AIIMS Bhopal and started my journey to become a doctor.

Why do people with trauma easily recognize other people with trauma through eye contact?